Thursday, May 10, 2007

Day Seventy


We're almost home!

Julia and I are leaving today for Almaty, Kazakhstan, destination: The Hyatt Hotel Almaty. Temps in the 80°'s. Coffee bar in the lobby. Julia Marian Miller by my side from sun up to sun down! And in less than one week, we will be home, and the new journey, our life as a family, will truly begin. My love to you ALL, but especially to Bruce and Austin who will have kept the home fires burning for 77 days! I can see you at the finish line...

Wednesday, May 9, 2007

Day Sixty-Eight




There's a little bit of dying with each significant departure and, truth be told, I'm not very good at it. If habits are established in childhood, then I'm impaired from the get-go. From my father, I inherited "transitional ambivalence" or the inability to gage when to leave or to move from one activity to another in a timely and meaningful fashion. From Dad, I learned to be late in arriving and late in departing and to feel badly about it on both ends. My mother, on the other hand is "the Abrupt Departer." To avoid the emotional complexity of leaving, she just disappears. Not a bad strategy but a bit preemptive and tending to leave those behind holding the proverbial "bag" of after-thoughts, of cautionary reminders or an intentional embrace. Left dangling like a participle. Like when the water shuts off and you have toothpaste in your mouth.

So, somewhere between not wanting to have to leave and wishing to simply disappear, I am bumbling toward my "near-death-like" departure with trepidation and despair. I am a walking zombie, preoccupied with leaving and with wanting to "do it right." To be in-the-moment. Authentic. But quite honestly, I'd like to avoid the pain. I just don't know how to graciously leave people, forever, while side-stepping the sadness. Especially friends who have selflessly cared for Bruce and me and others who quite literally saved our daughter's life. Then gave her to us. In good condition! It's been said that each good-bye builds the foundation for successive departures. All the more reason to do it well. Egad, I hate this part! I'll deal with it tomorrow...

On a completely different note, I'd say that "Victory Day" was a smashing success and although the skies remained ominous, it neither rained nor snowed. The entire city took to the streets, marching toward the Tomb of The Unknown Soldier in Victory Park, carrying carnations in denominations of two. Music bellowed from strategically placed megaphones and throngs of nationalists pushed their way to the base of the monolith, offering words of gratitude and tossing their flowers upon the pyre. Darryl, Marcy, Peter and I wandered in amazement at the enormity of the festivities. And though folks were picnicking on kabobs, beer and "army slop" in small congregations throughout the park, we could not, for the life of ourselves, figure our how to get food! So we left. The celebration spilled out of the Park onto main street toward the walking mall where more tents are erected, flags are flying, meat is grilling, beer is flowing and it looks like these Kazaks really know how to party! I mean commemorate. Predictably, I have returned to the hotel for a nap and a cup of coffee! And a blog update. So here goes...

Love to my dear family and all of my very loyal friends~ TTFN! Carrie

Saturday, May 5, 2007

Day Sixty-Four




Did I say that the tile mosaics on the sides of random buildings are absolutely amazing? The first photo is just one example of a mosaic that I discovered while taking a short cut through an inner-city neighborhood while heading "home" from the Gros. Later that same day, I was again strolling somewhere for something and I happened upon the "Repetition Day" celebration in the center of town. From what I observed, hundreds of highschool students were engaged in mini marathons of varying distances. The major roads in Kostanai were cordoned off and the races all ended at the promanade or walking mall across from "Central Park." Hence, picture number two with the marching band at the finish line where shortly thereafter, awards were presented to students and their respective schools.

And the third picture, lest we forget, is the reason that I'm still here!

This weekend I have begun preparations for leaving Kazakhstan as I am scheduled to take Julia from the Delfin Baby Home on Friday, less than one week from today. We fly together to Almaty where we will stay at the International Hyatt Hotel until our final departure on Friday, May 18th. Bruce and I decided that it is best for Julia and I to leave Kostanai two days early (for the weekend) in order for us to adjust to one another and our surroundings before our scheduled meetings with the American Embassy on Monday and Tuesday.

Interestingly, our Almaty visit coinsides with the 63rd session of the United Nations Economic and Social Commission for Asia and the Pacific (UNESCAP)! This means that the highest decision making body in all of Central Asia will be meeting for the first time and that more than 400 Central Asian delegates AND President Nursaltan Nazarbayev of Kazakhstan will be competing with me for a table and a cab! But seriously, this is momentous and I am excited to be in Almaty at that time. Let me know if this event makes headlines or attracts media attention in the US. I am sure that Almaty will be hopping!

Sunday, May 6th, is Karen Swope's 48th birthday (Happy Birthday Karen!) and Wendesday, May 9th is "Victory Day" or "Defender of the Motherland Day," the 62nd Anniversary (1945) of the victory in "the Great Patriotic War" or Victory for Europe ("VE") Day. I shall gather with the allied forces in "Victory Park" and place flowers at the base of the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier's Memorial. Then everyone drinks beer and eats kabobs. Or so I'm told. Much more to come in the days ahead... Love from us, for now, from Kostanai~ Carrie and Julia

Friday, May 4, 2007

Day Sixty-Three




Our days in Kostanai, Kazakhstan have been full of surprises! A first cookie. A walk in the park. Napping in the stroller with a dalmatian. Life in Bloomfield, New Jersey has been busy too but it's late in Central Asia so half of us are going to bed! We promise to "blog" more tomorrow. Happy weekend and much, much love~ Carrie and Julia, Bruce and Austin

Monday, April 30, 2007

Day Fifty-Nine


Julia and her two front teeth have left the Infirmary and are safely returned to Baby Room No. One. Clap! Clap! Clap!

Mother and daughter spent a delicious morning walking the grounds of the Delfin Baby Home. In the garden, on a clear, warm spring day, we talked about planting and the difference between annuals and perennials. Actually, "mother" did all of the talking while "daughter," feigning a slight interest, persisted in attempting to rip the buds off tree branches. Fortunately for the tree, Julia's own short limbs were engulfed in snow suit sleeves so damage was averted. She was notably more comfortable today and the tiny white ridges of her two lower "milk teeth" are more pronounced with each visit.

Tomorrow, May 1st, is a holiday in Kazakhstan, commerating ethnic and cultural diverstiy. As with International Women's Day (March 8th), and the traditional Kazak New Year and spring festival, Nauriz (March 22nd), the main street in Kostanai will be closed and there will be colorful displays of ethnic costumes, music, dancing and food. More yurts are also expected! Remember the yurt? These were the circular tents made of felt or animal skins affixed to collapsible frames and used by nomads in Eastern Europe and Central Asia. But you knew that.

Meanwhile, Bruce is waiting patiently for our return while working like a dog, spring cleaning the yard, preparing the baby's room, staining our back porch, answering inquiries about our Kazakhstan adventure, 'Google-ing' baby equiptment, touching base with friends and family and persistently vying for Austin's attention! Relatively speaking, life for me in Kostanai has been a vacation. I have loved the food, the beer, the people, the accommodations and the the exotic nature of this sacred place. Our babies birth land. But I'm now ready to come home already. I miss Bruce and our big kid, Austin. I miss my Mom, Reggie and all of you, our dear family and friends! Still hoping to be home by Mother's Day, I am sending my love on ahead, with gratitude and warm wishes ~ Carrie

Sunday, April 29, 2007

Day Fifty-Seven




On my 57th day in Kostanai, Marcy, Darryl, Nellie (our translator/guide) and I boarded a bus which took us to another bus which brought us to a taxi station where we hired a car to drive south west to the iron ore mining capital of Kazakhstan. We ventured to "Rudney," deriving from the root word "rud," meaning ore in Russian.

Partly for the scenery, partly for the challenge of traveling in a foreign land and partly for the experience of exploring a new locale, we departed Kostanai at 1:30 PM on Saturday afternoon. Initially, we were amazed to discover that Kostanai is much larger than we had previously believed. Surrounding the downtown area, are sprawling suburbs offering a mixture of single family homes and high rise condominiums. There are no swimming pools, despite pockets of great wealth and the scorching, arid climate that prevails throughout the long, hot summer months. Once outside the city limits, for as far as the eye can see, lie endless fields of low cut grass, wheat or tilled dirt, preparing to birth to this year's vegetable harvest. Every few kilometers, in the distant pastures, thickly clothed sheep or brown cows were grazing. And as is customary for a predominant number middle income city dwellers, there are clusters of brick or wooden sheds on small parcels of farmland where people lease or own land for weekend fruit and vegetable farming.

On the outskirts of Rudney, the distant hills reveal evidence of strip mining. The mining of ore and coal, in addition to Kazakhstan's oil reserves, metallurgy and chemical production, play an important role in Kazakhstan's economy, employing 27 percent of the total labor force. Another 23 percent of the workforce is employed in agriculture with an emphasis on livestock and grain production.

Rudney is a small city or large village. It has extremely flat terraine, with wide streets, colorful metal store front facades and expansive tile wall murals displayed on many of the older, government buildings. As in Kostanai, Rudney also possesses numerous imposing, Soviet era metal statues, denoting the ore industry, military conflicts and the collective struggle of the common man. We walked for hours and hours but the sun doesn't set until after 9:00 PM so it simply felt like a v-e-r-y l-o-n-g d-a-y. Our final exploration was the new, local, three-story mall and the event center, replete with movie theater, disco, bowling alley, billiards and a Chinese restaurant. By 8:15 PM, we caught a bus for home which took us to another bus which dropped us off at the bottom of the promenade in Kostanai, one kilometer from our hotel. In a trance-like procession, we trudged the gradual incline just as the sun was setting in the west.

It was nice to get out and really nice to get back in! And we now know that we never could have done it without Nellie!

Thursday, April 26, 2007

Day Fifty-Five




Julia has teeth! Upon arriving at the Baby Home this morning, Julia's caretaker showed me that her two front bottom teeth have broken through the gums! That's the good news. The bad news is that she has diarrhea, a fever and she is very uncomfortable. She cried on and off throughout my visit and it was nearly unbearable because there was nothing I could do to soothe her. She went back to the infirmary where they are monitoring her temperature and hopefully keeping her comfortable. So the first picture is of Julia, teething.

The next picture is the worst one in the series of me and the BEST one of Julia. Isn't that motherhood in a nutshell? And the last photograph is a shot from our balcony window, the scene Bruce and I and now "I" look out on everyday. It is a picture that we never want to forget. I just wish that I could include the sounds (Russian and Kazak), smells (boiled meat, open air barbecue, fresh bread, sour milk and old clothes!) and tastes (indescribable) of Kostanai!

In my ninth week in Kazakhstan, I am just now realizing that my ability to sustain positivity and a sense of adventure comes solely from the security of knowing that Bruce and Austin are taking care of our lives back home while preparing for Julia's arrival and my return with anticipation and love. This security is magnified by the love and support from our families and dear and loyal friends who are "keeping a light on" for us as well. Your love is the miracle, the muscle, the motivation and the meaning. Bruce and I both want you all to know how much we love you back!

Monday, April 23, 2007

Day Fifty-Two


I may regret having said this, but today's big delight came in the form of a bowel movement. After fifty-two days, I finally got to change my baby! Yes. She works! It was magnificent! It happened at 10:57 AM. Nice job, Julia! Clap! Clap! Clap!

As usual, Julia was happy and playful today and she is now the biggest baby in the Baby Room in height and weight. If she wasn't coming home with me, she would soon advance to the next level and move to the room with older babies on the other side of the dividing wall. But her caretaker, Maria, has assured me that she will stay put until our departure. I am greatly relieved!

After this mornings visit, Oleysa and I helped Darryl relocate from the 3rd to the 2nd floor, right next to me! Marcy, who is a little further down the hall, has a throwing up illness so she missed her baby visit with 10 month old "Zhana" and lunch with the girls. Actually, we missed her! We lunched at the Korean/Russian place where we all had the spicy noodle salad, Summer Soup (a cold, white broth of sour milk and mineral water) and a chicken dish. From there, we walked to the "salon" and booked a facial for Darryl and to the "nail place" to schedule a manicure for Oleysa. Back at the hotel, Darryl and Oleysa inquired about the "loaner computer" she is having installed in her room and I changed from jeans to a skirt to accompany Oleysa to the Registry Office to pick up Julia's new birth certificate, listing Bruce and me as her parents! It was to be a momentous occasion only the papers hadn't been prepared and Oleysa was asked to return again tomorrow. Mind you, this involves a 20 minute walk in each direction. On our way back, while Oleysa went into the "bill paying store" to pay her telephone bill, I found a street vending "flower lady" and bought her a small, surprise bouquet of yellow and white mums.

We are in such good, competent hands with Oleysa that I sometimes forget how dependent on her I really am for all of the big, important stuff that she accomplishes so seamlessly. And although younger (in some cases by FAR!) than all of us, she leads us like a mother hen, directing, nurturing, encouraging and answering our endless and often repetitive questions. And then she schedules and prods us to get to all of our appointments on time! Oleysa is exemplary and extraordinary and I am proud to call her a mentor, a teacher and a friend. It's been another good and very interesting day. I hope the same holds true for you, my mentors, teachers, family and friends back home!

Sunday, April 22, 2007

Day Fifty-One, Part B



Before I explain how I ended up sitting next to THIS GUY, let me rewind to this morning's visit at the Baby Home. Darryl, Luke, Julia and I had our final "group session" with Loretta and Margie who left Kostanai for Frankfurt shortly after lunch. If there is one, it was the best day to fly "Air Astana" as the weather is gorgeous! Sunny, warm and clear. I decided to spend my afternoon walking with a camera so I headed out by way of "Central Park". Two long blocks from Hotel Medeo, I realized I needed sunglasses for the glare as well as the pervasive dust. Not wanting to go backwards, I turned toward the outdoor market where I knew with relative certainty that I could buy a knock-off pair of Dolce & Gabbana, Prada, Gucci or Dior for under ten bucks. I was right. They are BIG, BOLD and really cheap! It was then that I remembered that I needed to buy fruit and that Darryl needed fruit so I proceeded to the produce market and bought LOTS of fruit. I also remembered that I was hungry so for about 20 cents I bought two fresh ground beef perrogies and ate them hot out of a plastic bag while standing on a mound of dirt, juggling my bags of fruit. Still, I had not lost sight of my original objective which, as you recall, was to take pictures on this glorious day! Things were going swimmingly so far.

In closer proximity to Victory Park than to Central Park, I turned right out of the market and headed west toward the Vladimir Ilich Lenin (1870-1924) Memorial which was unfortunately shrouded in blinding sunlight so that you are looking at a blog photo of the grounds and not the monument which is now draped in roses and floral wreaths. And although the landscape is greener and undoubtedly more attractive, I still believe that Kostanai is most charming under snow. But back to my story,,,

I meandered through the park taking pictures when all of a sudden I heard an uproarious commotion and saw people of all ages, hundreds of them, running toward the soccer stadium. Sucked in by curiosity, I joined the swell and soon found myself (clutching three bags of fruit) squashed amidst the crowds on a ticket line for the opening match between the Kostanai "Tobyl" and the Astana "Actaha" (mind you I didn't know this until I was safely escorted to my seat!). By this point I had mounting reservations and NO options. I couldn't move. It hadn't even occurred to me that once I got up to the window, I had no idea WHAT I was asking for or HOW MUCH it would cost me! As fate would have it, I survived. And my greatest accomplishment of the entire day was non-verbally convincing a battalion of armed guards that I could not possibly surrender my produce!

The karmic twist is that MY seat was next to "THIS GUY"! I am not kidding. I can't tell you who won the game. I can't even tell you who I was rooting for! But I can say this for sure; that I figured out how to fit in. Isn't that one of life's lessons we learned in kindergarten?

Well, now night is approaching. The heat of the late afternoon sun has allowed me to throw open my balcony doors while I sit in jeans and a tee shirt, reflecting on the day. My all of your day's adventures be so simple and so sweet. Love from here to there...

Day Fifty-One, Part A



Today deserves two installments! The first segment is about my two kids! I spoke with Austin, "my older child," last night and he had an "awesome" time on his 8th grade school trip to Italy! From what I could "extract," his favorite tourist attractions were the Sistine Chapel and Saint Peter's Square, both in Vatican City. He came perilously close to bringing me home a string of Pope-blessed rosary beads but then remembered that we're Protestant. At least he thought of me in the context of religious paraphernalia! It sounds like he, too, has had a growth-enriching experience abroad. I couldn't wish for anything better! He also expressed a renewed appreciation for the United States which, in spite of it's myriad flaws, IS a great country. We're all glad that Austin's home. Including Austin!

Regarding "my younger child," Julia is thriving! I can't get used to saying that I have two children!!! Today, Julia squeeked and squalked and babbled and spit for over an hour, much to the delight of the younger babies! And although I know that "babbling" is a sign of "normal" development, it's amazing to watch her blossom in so short a period of time. I've got to bring her home before she starts saying "Da Da"!

The first photo is of Julia standing by herself in the playpen and the second is of Julia in the arms of her new caretaker. It has been a great day for me! I'm hoping that you are having a great day, too!

Friday, April 20, 2007

Day Fourty-Nine



In the first photograph, Julia is on Darryl's lap and her little buddy, Luke, is on Loretta's lap on the couch in the crib room of the Delfin Baby Home. You can see by their sizes what a difference one month makes! And first prize goes to the person who can identify the edifice in the second picture! We came across it last night en route to dinner at "The Mango Cafe" and it is amazing in its grandeur. We think it has something to do with a peasant uprising or socialist revoloution! It has been fun for Julia and me to share our daily visits with Darryl, Loretta and Margie. It's been a nice diversion and a bonding experience for the adults as well as our children. I am so grateful that we will continue to share in each others' lives after leaving Kostanai. Another small miracle!

When I visited Julia yesterday, she was holding herself up, standing in the playpen! Clap! Clap! Clap! And she was proud of herself, too! I am so glad that I am here to see her everyday. I have even begun to imagine the day when she and I will leave for Almaty and spend a few days touring that great city before our long trek home. I have heard that it is warm there now and although our days are warmer here, the mornings and late afternoons in Kostanai return to temperatures in the low 40's.

I am off this morning to visit our Jewel, our precious gem. Then I will run some errands with Oleysa who is taking the girls to "444," the belly dancing nightclub for kabobs and dancing tonight! Oleysa, who goes far above and beyond what a host must do to make her international guests feel comfortable, is a joy to be with. I am relishing our prolonged time together in Kostanai! Love to you all and we can't wait to see you very soon, again! Carrie (and Julia)

Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Day Fourty-Six




Just a few of the remarkable faces of Kazakhstan! From the teenaged boys of Kostanai to the knitting ladies at the outdoor market to my favorite pashmina vendor... each face has had a story to tell and each person, a laugh or a smile to share.

In the singularity of my purpose here, I am more keenly aware of my own vulnerablility and those random acts of humanity that guide me, like an undercurrent, along my way. There is a gentle nudge at the post office, steering me toward the right pick-up counter, or a quick hand on my shoulder, restraing me from stepping into the on-coming traffic or a middleaged saleswoman in slippers running out of her shop, into the drenching rain to hand me a forgotten package of camera batteries. I am not alone here but instead, surrounded by a sea of kindness, waiting to happen. But these euphoric moments of human connectedness, moments of pure joy, cannot happen unless I experience and reveal my own helplessness. Humility and Grace.

These past few days at the Medeo Hotel have reminded me of the stories I've read about living in New Yok City in the ethnocentric neighborhoods of the early 1900's. There is the anticipated arrival of English speaking emigrants bringing news of the motherland, stories of political and social upheaval and signs of the changing times, evidenced by the more fashionable and freshly creased attire. And each departure is cause for celebration while eliciting mixed feelings of accomplishment, relief, melancholy and trepidation. I deeply miss Bruce on this leg of our journey together. I miss Jenny, Chris and Ryan who welcomed us to Kostanai and embellished our experience. We crossed paths with Bret and Laura and this week Laura returned, briefly, to take her daughter, Paulina, home. Marcy and Peter arrived mid-March and Peter returned stateside shortly before Bruce went home. Marcy and I have gotten closer and together we welcomed Darryl, Loretta and Margie and are showing THEM the ropes! In and through this experience, we have shared our dreams, fears, hopes and heartaches and rely on one another for support and validation. Holding tight and letting go. Comings and goings. Humility and Grace. Life demands much, but the rewards are innumerable!

On a closing note, Julia and I had a delightful morning and Oleysa and I agree that she is breathing easier and her energy is improving. She can now stand up with both feet planted firmly on the ground and she crawls with her elbows the full length of the couch. This little girl thrives on social interaction and is happiest when surrounded by other people talking! She babbles mostly when we are alone and blows rasberries until I'm coverred in spittle! I will be home before Mother's Day but each day is my gift!

Sunday, April 15, 2007

Day Fourty-Four


The Americans have landed! A new family arrived on Saturday and, despite having had their laptop stolen in Frankfurt, they were all in good spirits, anxious to meet their new baby and hungry for the Kazakhstan experience that awaits them! Darryl, the first-time "Mom", is single and lives in Montclair. Her mother, Margie, is an artist who lives in Manhatten. Darryl's cousin, Loretta, also lives in Montclair with her two sons (one is Austin's age) and worked with my beloved father in advertising in New York in the 1980's! It really IS a small world. They are a delightful bunch and up for anything so I walked them all over Kostanai today and will introduce them to "The Russian Pub" for dinner this evening. They loved the outdoor market, the "Gros" and the large in-door mall. I forget how overwhelming it is to have newly arrived in such a foreign place. For me, it is a joy to be useful again and I am thriving in my role as "tour guide!"

Julia is still congested and still happy as a clam! We had a good visit today and I am amazed at how she is growing right before my eyes! She is definately a size 9-12 months. I can hardly wait to see her in new baby-girl outfits!

I heard that Austin and his compadres landed safely in Italy! Still no direct word from him but the email chain said that the kids are exhausted, excited and extraordinary! A good report all around. Their teacher, Mr. Prasarn, is a Saint!

In my wildest dreams, I NEVER would have believed that one day, I would be writing from Kazakhstan where I'm staying with my DAUGHTER, while my HUSBAND is in America and my SON is in Italy! "My cup runneth over..." God is GREAT! You, my dear friends, are too!

Friday, April 13, 2007

Day Fourty-Two



Todays blog is for Julia and for the special memory of Fyeenah. You probably won't remember Julia, but the day that God released you to this world, you were "caught" by the cradling arms of a wonderful Angel named, "Fyeenah." Fyeenah has been your caretaker since the day you arrived at the Delfin Baby Home in Kostanai Kazakhstan. She is a tireless and grateful soul who, seemingly without effort, attends to the needs of all of the babies in your Baby Room at the same time. Fyeenah never stops moving and can always be heard gently cooing, singing and playing with all of you, making sure that nobody is ever wet, unhappy or alone. She has a mother's intuition and cares for each baby like a mother bear. Your mind will not remember, but Fyeenah has been your angel guide, waiting patiently with you for your Dad and me to come and bring you safely home.

Fyeenah told me this morning, in sign language and through mime, that she is leaving tomorrow on a plane to visit her mother and will not see us again before we leave. This leg of our journey together is ending. But I know this my precious daughter... that Fyeenah has loved you since the minute she laid eyes on you and that your father and I fell in love with her the first day we met. It is obvious that she has a special bond with you which is most apparent in the way she delights in your laughter and your smiles! And she welcomed your parents as if you'd both been expecting us! Without words, we "recognized" each other and the important roles that God has given each of us to ensure your safe delivery and your happiness.

With tears of gratitude streaming down my face, I know that we will never forget Fyeenah whose shining face and bright spirit are imprinted on our hearts. Thank you, God, for your abundant miracles and the way that you weave our lives together with family and friends to make each life complete. Thank you especially today, for the life of Julia, who brought us here, to meet an Angel!

Thursday, April 12, 2007

Day Fourty-One


It was just a matter of time before Julia became re-infected with the baby-cold that is circulating among her peers. As one infant gets better, another begins to cough and so on... And although coughing and congested, Julia's spirits are high and her appetite is good. She was just a little lethargic and ran out of steam before I left her this morning. She was preciously clingy and I wished more than ever that I could have stayed with her all day. Oleysa came upstairs to Julia's Baby Room and must have sensed my motherly instinct as she suggested that I stay with Julia for an additional few minutes, a generous offer as the caretakers and our driver, André, adhere to rigorous schedules. I am truly grateful for the quality time that we do spend together and soon enough, we'll be together all the time!

After my visit, I joined Oleysa and Marcy for a "girls day out." We lunched at the "Bistro Cafe" where I had that divine "beef loaf" which approximates my Grandmother's meat-loaf and is topped with melted cheese and a tomato slice. We finished lunch and walked for a while as the sun was shining and the temperature was relatively warm. We tucked into some little shops and I bought a bottle and bottle brush while beginning to discuss how to feed my child once we leave the orphanage. This is a stressful topic for both Marcy and me as the customs are so different regarding baby feeding in Kazakhstan! I can only handle these conversations in small doses. Today I learned that the miniature, hard-boiled yoke that I mix into Julia's porridge is a quail egg! My biggest concern is her hydration as the babies aren't given bottles and don't yet drink from cups. I'll brooch that topic next week!

Oleysa had arranged for us to visit the "Eden Salon" where Marcy enjoyed a manicure and Oleysa and I had our "roots" fixed by the colorist. They did a great job and it was nice for me to have Marcy there for the "girl talk" that is so critical to the spa experience! After primping, we walked to the "big indoor mall" where Oleysa helped me purchase some precious, pink and white baby outfits for our trip to Almaty. Pinch me because I think I'm dreaming! We stopped last at the "Gros" where I bought several "D" batteries for the baby swing that has never worked in Julia's playroom. I also bought a bag of mayonnaise, several bags of "bonxay" potato chips and a bottle of Trivento Cabernet from Australia! Tomorrow I'm scheduled for a facial at 2:00 PM so hold my calls...

It's 8:30 PM and the sun is just now slipping behind the five-story, grey government buildings across the avenue. It is a very different experience being in Kostanai after the snow has melted and the mud has dried. I am told that May brings the warm weather and the foliage and I hope to witness the beginning of a third season, though my attire is becoming conspicuous! I will write again, after the arrival of a new American family on Saturday. I am now "the welcoming committee" and look forward to seeing my familiar surroundings anew, through the eyes of a stranger! Love for now, Julia and her Mom XOXO

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Day Four, From Home


A step back in time! Well, after a thirty-four hour return trip home, it has taken me a few days to get my land legs back and my head on straight. There has been a large time-gap but I thought I'd try my hand again in the "World of Blog." Our Kazakhstan adventure has been a life changing experience for me in so many ways, too many to express or even comprehend. I did want to express my love for and amazement at a person that has challenged me to stake a claim in this life and do something good. And, for the first time in my life I feel just that way. The third best thing I've ever done is become Austin's stepdad. I hope he knows that I think he is awesome! The second best thing I've done is become a dad to Julia, truly a love-gift from God! And the best-est thing I've done was to marry Carrie. She is ONE in a million and has shown me the true meaning of love and family. I have been three times blessed and consider myself a very lucky man. Bruce

Day Thirty-Seven


It's been forty days and forty nights and I'm beginning to understand Noah's plight, on a boat packed with non-English speaking couples! Actually, I am still fine and enjoying the novelties of life amidst this very foreign culture. For those of you who have lived or visited abroad for an extended period, you will understand that the most inspiring moments are the subtle ones. Like walking "home" from the market, carrying bags of groceries, feeling momentarily like everybody else.

Today started out rainy and cold, reminiscent of a damp November morning in New Jersey. Julia was happy to see me and we talk now, before, during and after breakfast. She is consistently more relaxed with me during mealtime, no longer straining for her next bite before swallowing what's in her mouth! She still let's me know that she's not happy when the food is gone but recovers more quickly and we move into the next activity of the day. This usually involves crawling on the sofa, playing with her vibrating teether-dog and stacking cups, sitting and standing with Mommy's support and singing songs like "This Old Man," "The Itsy, Bitsy Spider," "Someone's in The Kitchen With Dinah" and "The Barney Song". I need some help here 'cause I'm making up words as I go along! No one told me to bring a baby song book! After digesting, Julia and I mingle with the other babies. Julia then begins to rub her eyes and pull her ear, signaling that nap time is around the bend. When I'm holding her, she will rub her whole face into mine, not unlike Lil' Buddy when it's time for me to wake up! Julia doesn't yet cry when I leave but I am hopeful that phase is approaching, just not until we get home! It's hard enough to leave when she's so happy...

We had our final farewell luncheon for the Mullins who headed for home to south Jersey this afternoon. I didn't think I would say this again but I had the BEST perrogies ever! It was a special meal and one that reminded me of the last day at overnight camp, saying good-bye to new friends who'd shared a brief but significant life experience. I walked in the light rain to the indoor mall and then to the "Gros" for diapers, water, "Leibniz" (German Butter Biscuits), grape juice and a great Kazak cup-of-soup mix. It's there that I enjoy trying out a new Russian phrase with the older, bag-check ladies whom, by their facial expressions, appear to reciprocate my enthusiasm. Today it was, "meen- YAH zah- VOOT Carrie. YAH OH- chin pree- AHT- na." OR, "My name is Carrie. I am pleased to meet you." They correct my pronunciation of EACH AND EVERY WORD but seem to get the message! This is an impossible language and I'm not getting any better at it, despite my fruitless efforts!

At 7:30 PM, the sun is now shining brightly and there is a fierce wind howling! I am the happy, NEW recipient of the "community DVD player" replete with the complete collection of Bruce Willis movies! Does life get any better than this??? Austin leaves for Italy with his 8th grade Latin and Art teachers and a few other kids on Friday. I am thrilled for him and only wish that I were there to obsess about his packing and general safety! I am really proud of his independence and self-confidence and can't wait to hear about his trip when we both get home! I am thinking about all of you on the adventures of YOUR lives. Keep me posted! Love Y'all~ Carrie

Sunday, April 8, 2007

Day Thirty-Four


HAPPY EASTER! CHRIST IS RISEN! HE IS RISEN INDEED!

Although the two and a half hour, Russian midnight Easter Mass was amazing, the real feeling of Easter came with the warm reception that Yana, the State Adoption Rep, gave me when she saw me in church, "sharing the Peace" with parishioners, and attempting to say "Shast LEE vee Pass kha!" or "Happy Easter," to the hotel lobby and cleaning staff. It was in those small exchanges, plus the opportunity to say "Thank you" to God for our abundant blessings, that brought the meaning of Easter home for me.

The church itself looked curiously unfinished on the inside with bare, unpainted walls and plain, wooden benches. Sixty-five of us packed the pews on both sides. The young Priest had a gentle demeanor and the service was a mixture of the traditional Catholic Mass with intermittent scripture readings by parishioners and songs lead by a soloist and followed by a common refrain. There were no bibles or hymnals though people brought their own and shared with one another. At the end of Mass, two plates of halved, hard boiled eggs were passed. The only word I KNOW that I knew was, "Ah MEEN." It was a rich experience and a meaningful Easter service for me.

I talked to both my boys on line this morning and they sound happy to be home and together! They emailed me a short video of our cats, Katie and Buddy! How cleaver! I felt like I could reach right in and scratch their furry little heads. It's a HUGE relief to know they're okay!

Julia babbled up a storm today! She also seemed less frantic when the food arrived for breakfast. Perhaps she's beginning to trust that I am there to feed her and at a slower pace than she's accustomed too. You can't imagine the sound of nine hungry babies or the competency and agility of the two adult caretakers at mealtime! Julia wanted to stay and play with her friends in the common room today so we hung with Nikoli, in a swing and Natasha, in a walker. I see God revealed in each little face and am comforted to know that there are more families wanting children than children available for adoption at the Delfin Baby Home.

My love to all of you! I pass the "Peace" in a hug from my heart! Carrie

Friday, April 6, 2007

Day Thirty-three




I thought it was time that I included pictures of our wonderful hosts, here in Kostanai. In one photograph, Bruce is at the airport with Andre, our driver and Oleysa, our interpreter and coordinator. In another picture, Bruce is dancing with Dr. Irina. And Nellie is in the picture by herself. We couldn't have survived here without the four of them!

Today's journal will be brief as there is not much to report except that Bruce called "his girls" from Frankfurt to say that he'd made it safely to and from Almaty en route to Newark. Almaty, the former capital of Kazakhstan (replaced by Astana in 1997) lies in the foothills of the Tien Shan Mountains, bordering Kyrgyzstan and not to distant from China. Bruce reports that these snow capped mountains are stunningly beautiful! Julia and I will get a chance to see them when we spend several days in Almaty at the end of our trip. I'm looking forward to exploring a new city!

Julia was precious today and I swear she kept looking over my shoulder for her father! She now nestles herself in my arms as opposed to pushing off of me as she did when we first arrived. I think she will be crawling by the time we get home.

I had lunch today with Oleysa and "the Americans" at the "Bistro Cafe" where I had the best "beef loaf" ever and the closest approximation to an American cheese burger! After lunch, I left our group and walked through "Central Park" as the sun was high in the sky and the weather was warm and spring-like. I bought some staples at the "Gros", including several plastic eggs, filled with surprises (?) that I will give to the hotel staff on Sunday, Easter morning. Tomorrow, I plan to take myself ice-skating in the afternoon and will attend Easter Mass on Saturday night. On Sunday, Nellie bought us tickets to "A Show" at the Kostanai Philharmonic. Best as I can decipher, it's a traditional Kazak musical production, hopefully with minimal dialogue!

I look forward to hearing that Bruce arrived safely home, that Austin is with him and the cats have forgiven us for leaving! I will write again as soon as something interesting happens! Love for now from KZ! Carrie (and Julia!)

Thursday, April 5, 2007

Adoption Day!


SHE IS OURS! Yup~ our petition for adoption was granted in court today and Julia Marian Miller officially became our daughter and Austin's little sister!

First thing this morning, Austin emailed us his "statement" for the Judge, saying, (and I am paraphrasing Austin, so please forgive any miscommunication!) "I am happy to have a sibling and I look forward to making sure that her life is really happy and safe and secure. I will protect her and guard her with my life and more if necessary." Bruce took the stand, answering all of the Judge's questions with careful consideration, and, under the expert direction of our guide, Oleysa and the generous praises of Dr. Irina, our Judge formalized Julia's adoption, congratulating us ALL (Austin too!) on our new family. April 5, 2007. A day we will always remember!

After court, we had a late visit with Julia and "Dad" sponged up her beauty and her charm before saying "good-bye." We stopped at the hotel, loaded a ton of luggage into André's car and headed to the Kostanai Airport to put Bruce on the plane bound for Almaty. Characteristic of our relationship, Bruce's parting words to me were, "Be careful" and mine to Bruce were "Relax and enjoy the ride." Now I am back in our hotel room, surprised at myself for missing Bruce so much, so soon. I have really grown to rely on him and I am feeling a bit untethered. I have, however, moved myself into his living spaces, sprawling my toiletries across the bathroom countertops and usurping all the hangers! I look forward to hearing that he has arrived home safely, tomorrow afternoon.

I have been invited by our State adoption representative to attend Easter Mass on Saturday night, from 10:00 PM until midnight and I am delighted! God is everywhere! "Happy Passover" to our Jewish family and "Joyful Easter" to the Christians! You are ALL in my thoughts and prayers and I am celebrating Julia with you, in my heart! Love, Carrie

Tuesday, April 3, 2007

Day Thirty-One


It was another great day in Kostanai that began with a surprise telephone call from Ginny and Austin! Thanks guys! What a wonderful way to start the day...

Julia was sleeping when we arrived at the Delfin Baby Home and awoke to find both parents' big heads smiling down on her in her crib. She was delighted and delightful! We dressed her and fed her then played for nearly an hour. She is definately in the crawling stage, pulling herself forward on her elbows toward any bright objects! Everything within reach goes directly into her mouth and this morning it was Bruce's nose. We played until nap time and she went down without a fuss.

We lunched with Oleysa and the Mullens at "The Russian Pub" and all ordered the stuffed cabbage, of local renown. It was terrific! After our meal, the "boys" walked to the ourdoor market and the "girls" went for coffee and then to visit Dr. Irina's Russian jeweler friend who had finished Carrie's made-to-order bracelet. It is magnificent, a piece of art and an heirloom for our daughter when her mother's done wearing it! The jeweler and his wife were again, hospitable and interesting as they told tales of growing up in Moscow. The girls returned to the hotel in the late afternoon when the balcony thermometer read 6° C. Although that may sound unseasonably cold, the temperature of our hotel room is in the mid to upper 80's so we are adequately prepared to return home to "spring."

Tomorrow morning we take Julia out of the Baby Home for her Passport photo! Tomorrow evening, Oleysa has planned a good-bye party for Bruce so "the Americans" will gather in the hotel lobby and carpool to a new discotheque for dinner, dancing and show girls. The fun never stops, right? First thing Thursday morning, we appear in "final court", then to the Baby Home for a brief visit with Julia before heading to the airport to put Bruce on a plane, eventually bound for home.

The time has passed quickly and this has been, so far, a remarkable journey! We are eternally grateful for the love and encouragement we have received from you, our family and friends back home. We are equally grateful for the support and attention that we have received from our new Russian, Kazak and American friends throughout our stay in Kostanai. May God bless you all with the generosity and kindness that you have showered upon us! With appreciation and love, C & B

Monday, April 2, 2007

Day Thirty!



We have made it to April, Julia is out of the infirmary and recovering from a bout with bronchitis and Bruce has packed his bags for home! It's all good! Todays photos of Julia were taken this morning and she seems as relieved as we are to be back with her familiar caretakers and intermingling with the other precious babies. This morning she was a ball of energy and all smiles! This also means that we will have 90 rather than 30 minutes with her every day. This is particularly important for Julia's "Papa," during these last few days with his little girl! Both of his "girls" are gonna miss him!

On Saturday, after visiting Julia in the infirmary, Bruce and Carrie enjoyed a day by themselves, walking in the afternoon sun to the large, more distant outdoor market. We retired to our room for dinner of leftovers and watched "Anger Management" on the laptop, compliments of Oleysa, who owns movies that can be seen in several languages. It was light-hearted and enjoyable. On Palm Sunday, unable to attend church, we bought 5 stalks of Pussy Willows, appparently signifying "re-birth" or something like that. In the afternoon, we purchased tickets to a performance at the Kostanai Philharmonic where we saw the final competition of Child Performers from throughout the region. Children, seemingly between the ages four and 16 sang and danced to traditional Russian and Kazak music, as well as performed some popular selections. Although the audience far exceeded the auditorium's seating capacity, the show was riviting and the talent supurb! It was also interesting to watch the crowd. It was very entertaining and a lot of fun. After the show, "the Americans" walked to the small, indoor mall to visit the displays at the Kazak store. We finished the day with a relaxing dinner and several Bajithka 6's at "Bavaria".

Which brings us to back to Monday and our wonderful visit with Julia today and the fact that Bruce has packed his bags and placed them by the door. Do you THINK he's ready to come home?!@# He's begun to dream about real milk and butterscotch Krimpets! And also about reuniting with Austin and the cats! Our final court date is in three days and then Julia officially becomes our little girl! Please don't forget that Carrie and Julia stay behind with "the blog" so keep reading and remember that you are always close in our hearts and minds! Love, C & B

Saturday, March 31, 2007

Day Twenty-Eight


Today's entry is dedicated to the one we miss the most, the child we left behind in person but who is always in our hearts and minds. This one's for you, Austin. And although you might not believe it, we are here, in part, because of you. We have come to bring your sister home. The only real damper on our time away has been that we reference everything in terms of you; things we think you'd like, things you might find funny and stuff we know you'd hate! For example, it's taken us five weeks to find Pringles and a lot of the snack food is flavored with fish! There isn't a black band tee-shirt in all of Kostanai, internet service is prohibitively expensive and we walk everywhere! On the up side, the teenage girls here are hot and you'd be a babe-magnet because English is a novelty and they all want to practice, only not with old geezers like your folks! You'd probably like "some" of the food and most of the chocolate. You would definitely miss your music as the radio here plays Disco and Rap. You would have loved the snow and hated the mud. You'd probably also go insane, sitting in restaurants for hours and hours as meals here are "an event."

We miss your sense of humor, your keen perception and quick mind. We miss hearing "That's awesome," "Dude," and "Righteous!" Believe it or not, we especially miss your habit of correcting our grammar and acknowledging our shortcomings! The highlight of OUR day, has been contacting you, despite the obstacles of time schedules (your "sleepification"), our computer ineptitude and that infuriating garbled message ordeal where everything we send is scripted in an esoteric code! You are the greatest kid and our proudest joy! And by next week at this time, half the family will be together on each side of the world. We'll be half-way "home!" SO THIS ONE'S FOR YOU BUNTER [ sorry about the caps. ] Love Mom and Bruce

Thursday, March 29, 2007

Day Twenty-Six


Our adventures continue and on Tuesday evening we were still celebrating Carrie and Chris's birthdays! After our Baby Home visit with Julia in the morning, we fasted in preparation for a great feast at a place called Knights Castle, a local cabaret within walking distance of our hotel. Dr. Irina and her husband were invited to join Oleysa and "the Americans" but her husband was working late so she attended solo and was our prestigious guest of honor! We can't begin to describe the decor of the of this magnificent restaurant. It is seemingly transported from Medieval Times with enormous wooden columns and long, mahogany tables with lion's heads carved and extending outward and upward from each of the four corners. We literally sat in thrones. The place was replete with stone fireplaces, spooky oil paintings of Knights and Ladies and eerily lit chandeliers and torches, illuminating the stairwells, private dining chambers and the main hall where we ate and were entertained with a crooner and burlesque. No kidding! Carrie exhausted Oleysa by enveloping Dr. Irina in conversations about education, socialized medicine, politics, child rearing practices, blah, blah, blah. Bruce rescued both women by inviting them to the dance floor. As usual, our meals were sensational. Bruce finally had real steak, cooked to perfection and Carrie had rolled chicken, stuffed with ham and mushrooms and served in a light cream sauce. Dessert was a birthday cake from Oleysa's favorite bakery which she presented as a surprise! The REAL surprise was the 83 candles on top! Dr. Irina gave Carrie and Chris each a delicate handkerchief, embroidered by her 82 year-old mother, Ludmilla. Oleysa gave Carrie a beautifully detailed, hand-painted Kazak plate with a scene of a Yurt in the forest, a sheep farmer and woman cooking on a Weber grill! Who Knew? All of these kind gifts will be heirlooms for our daughter, symbols of her rich heritage and the generosity of the Kazakhstan people.

That evening lasted well into the next morning and Wednesdays visit to the Baby Home came quickly. Fortunately, Bruce had given Carrie a miniature alarm-clock for her birthday!

After today's visit with Julia, Bruce worked on the computer, struggling to figure out how to "upload" pictures to a CD which we can then take to the Kodak picture processing store. Carrie joined Oleysa and the others for lunch at the "Yellow Bus" restaurant where hamburgers and hot dogs are the specialty. Both dishes are curiously served with mayonnaise and ketchup (Russian dressing?). The food was yummy and the group later walked in the bright late afternoon sunshine to the outdoor market where Carrie bought two pair of beautifully knitted Kazak socks and Oleysa purchased brightly colored galoshes, a staple for spring in Kostanai!

Most importantly, we are continuing to enjoy our daughter, Julia, but grow increasingly anxious to bring her home. Each day it is more difficult to leave her. Our only solace is that she is in such good hands and the staff seems to enjoy her almost as much as we do.

Please continue to write and think about us as we think of you and begin planning for our return. Bruce hopes to fly from Kostani to Almaty, on to Frankfurt and then to Newark next Thursday, after our final court appearance. Carrie says "Keep writing 'cause I'll be here alone!" Love you all so much! C&B

Monday, March 26, 2007

Day Twentythree


What an amazing 40-something birthday this has been! Carrie awoke at 6:30 to read heart-warming emails from her family and our friends. Bruce surprised her at breakfast with an assortment of gifts from Kostanai, wrapped in Kazakhstan newsprint! He even remembered flowers! We then showered, dressed in our Sunday best and headed to court with Olyssa and a bundle of nerves! But all went beautifully. The Judge approved our petition and scheduled us to return to her chambers on April 5th to finalize this phase of the adoption. Then Bruce can come home, return to work and prepare the house, the cats and "the older brother" for the pending arrival of an infant!

During our visit with Julia today, we were permitted to take her outside, bundled in what appeared to be six layers of clothing (reminiscent of a scene from "The Christmas Story"). Though she was immobilized, it was a welcomed change for all of us! We had brought a birthday cake to the Baby Home and shared it with Dr. Irina, Olyssa and the Mullens (Chris, Jennifer and 6 year old Ryan) as Carrie shares her birthday with Chris. Dr. Irina proceeded to read their horoscopes, faces and palms! She presented Chris and Carrie with beautiful, semi-precious stones and then insisted on taking Carrie to the home of a personal friend and jewelry designer who is renown for his unique yet traditional style of Kazak jewelry. Carrie is having a bracelet made from Dr. Irina's gift and the jeweler promises that she will be the only person in the world to own this piece! He, his wife and their cat were warm and hospitable and it was truly a memorable occasion. From there, Carrie returned to the hotel and we walked to lunch with Nellie and the Mullens at 'The Gold Cafe.' After a delicious meal, Nellie gave Carrie a small printed scene of Kostanai's Russian Orthodox Church, where she had taken us on her initial day as our personal "tour guide." Carrie then trekked alone to the balloon store to buy a small surprise for Chris and met a wonderful Russian woman named Ludmilla while crossing at a busy intersection. With only a few common words shared and a lot of laughter, they locked arms and walked for several blocks through the snow covered streets before embracing as "friends" and each going their own way, alone again. Bruce shared a similar moment with a young Kazak man on the street today. Upon realizing that Bruce was a foreigner, he struggled at great length to find the word, "Welcome," expressing that he was a Kazak man from Kazakhstan and was personally welcoming Bruce to his country. The two exchanged first names, a hearty handshake and, before leaving, an embrace followed with the universal phrase for "Good-bye" which appears to be "Chow". We are so humbled and so grateful for these poetic moments, touching reminders of "the language of the heart"...

Just moments ago, there was a knock on the door and a young girl who checks coats in the hotel lobby had come to give Carrie a birthday gift. She had beautifully scripted "Happy Birthday Carrie! From Victoria" on a post-it and wrapped a delicate shell bracelet and necklace around a small laminated pocket calendar. Does life get more precious than this?! God is GREAT!

We are off now to what promises to be a romantic birthday dinner at our favorite local spot, Dolce Vita. We love and miss each and EVERY one of you and hold you close in our hearts, always! Carrie & Bruce

Sunday, March 25, 2007

Three Weeks and Counting


When we last posted we were celabrating the Kazak holiday,three days have passed and it has been quiet here.As we mentioned most of the city has been shut down until Sunday. When ever a holiday falls on the weekend Sunday becomes a work day, so it was business as usual today.We spent a lazy couple of days after the festival on Thursday. Friday we visited the largest park in the city Freedom Park.They have a Huge statue of an unknown solider and war memorial with the names of all the lives lost,and an equally massive bronze of Lenin overlooking the entire setting,very impressive.Saturday Bruce went on his own to shop for Carries birthday at the open air market and the big mall,[ not so big really].A perfect time for Carrie to lose herself in Anna Karenina
We continue to visit Julia every morning and she continues to amaze.Today Sunday we joined Olyssa and the rest of our ameraconski's for lunch and then back to the hotel to get ready for our first visit with the courts,Bruce is a little nervous, he has to do all the talking,we'll check back tomorrow and let you know how it all goes.Love to all Carrie and Bruce

Thursday, March 22, 2007

Days Seventeen and Eighteen



Well today we will start our news with our authentic Kazak dinner which we shared (with the "Americans") on Wednesday night. The idea here was to eat with our hands but we but looked at each other, sitting around the table, and opted for dinnerware. The meal began with shredded vegetable salads dressed in oil and garlic followed by a chilled "Spring Soup" consisting of a sour milk and mineral water broth then loaded with diced eggs, potatoes, ham, dill, parsley, tomato, garlic, salt and pepper. The main course, served family style, was an enormous platter of flat noodles layered with onions and horse meat. For many locals, this is considered a delicacy. Bruce says "it was really not too bad and tasted like Mom's home-made pot roast." Carrie couldn't get past her fondness for horses! It was all washed down with Bajithka 7's, a dry Merlot and, for the men, shots of Russian vodka. Dessert came in the form of ice-cream with cognac or ice-cream with fried bananas, apples and oranges. This was the night of March 21st, the beginning of "Nauryz," the Islamic adaptation of the pre-Islamic vernal equinox or "Kazak New Year," which is celebrated for the next three days.

After this morning's delightful visit with Julia, we emailed her medical report to our stateside adoption pediatrician, Dr. Nalvern, and then joined the throngs of Nauryz celebrants parading through the streets of Kostanai. The entire city is "on holiday" and people young and old headed to the streets to eat, dance, visit with friends and family, drink and watch the stage performances. Music was everywhere and street vendors cooked kabobs and sold home made bread, pastries and deep fried dough balls. Traditional festive Kazak clothing was worn by many and the early Kazak homes, called yurts, were beautifully displayed up and down the sidewalks. Kostanai's Central Park offered amusement rides including a looming ferris wheel, a Tilt-a-whirl and a giant swing. They even sold popcorn and cotton candy! We felt like we were at Seaside Heights except that we were surrounded by snow and couldn't decipher any of the signs or instructions! After several hours of people watching, we retired to our hotel room or "home," to hand wash laundry and watch "The Jackal", a terrific Russian spy thriller staring Bruce Willis and Richard Greer, generously lent to us by Olyssa. We selected the "English" listening option and, for 90 minutes, felt like we were REALLY home.

Now, a Russian dubbed Harry Potter movie is on TV- ugh! but most importantly, we'd better close and post this blog so that some of you (whom we haven't yet bored to death!) can read about our yesterday and today, this morning! We continue to thrive on your comments and emails so please keep on writing! We love and miss you all, a lot! Carrie & Bruce

Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Day Sixteen


Well, we'll take it as a good sign that our preliminary court appearance is scheduled for Monday March 26th, Carrie's birthday! In the meantime, we continue to explore our new worlds; both as parents and as foreigners in this exotic land. Yesterday, our visit at the baby house started with a surprise "invitation" to a birthday party for Julia's lead caretaker, Fieena (a surprise to us, not to Fieena!). We sat around the children's feeding table, sharing birthday cake, cookies and chocolates followed by a course of bread, cheese, sliced apples, oranges, cucumbers and "chi" or Russian tea with milk. When we first arrived, Carrie wished Fieena a happy birthday in Russian and Bruce presented her with a bouquet of yellow mums. We felt very "accepted" as we carried on meaningful conversations, miming and guessing our way through, sharing smiles, nods, hugs and lots of laughter! It was an incredible moment in time. Then this morning, we presented the women with pictures of themselves and they were exuberant! We think we'll reciprocate buy bringing in a cake for Carrie's birthday next week.

Today, the snow is melting (it's actually 32 degrees Fahrenheit!) and the sun is shining brightly. Julia was crying when we arrived at the Baby Home this morning but stopped abruptly when she saw us, probably sensing that food would soon follow! She has begun to make crawling movements toward specific toys beyond her reach. Her arms and legs are strong and she enjoys lifting herself with her arms and standing with our help. We are now on our way to meet Olyssa and visit a Notary before heading someplace new for lunch with "the group". After our usual BIG meal, we hope to hike out to the large outdoor market where we're told the spring merchandise is replacing the winter wares. This ought to be interesting~ endless booths of black and brown boots, fur coats and hats, sweaters and blankets replaced by... what you ask? We'll let you know! Love for now and big, imaginary hugs and kisses~ Carrie and Bruce

Sunday, March 18, 2007

Day Fifteen


We thought we'd start our journal now, between afternoon ice skating and date night at the local pizzaria, Dolce Vita. Otherwise, it's been a quiet Sunday. Bruce spent much of the day trying to fix something on the computer. Carrie is well into her third book, having finished "The Whistling Season," by Ivan Doig and "For One More Day," by Mitch Albom, both Christmas gifts and greatly appreciated! She's now reading "Running With Scissors," by Augusten Burroughs in avoidance of starting "Anna Karenina," by Leo Tolstoy. It's really long and the words are r-e-a-l-l-y small but she's working up to it. Reading without distgraction has been a luxury!

Regarding Julia, she is great! She is babbling more each day and reaching out toward Mom or Dad when she wants one of us to hold her. She seems to know us now, two weeks in and she is responding well to our attention. She is able to sit up with Mom behind her and she pulls herself up to a standing position holding onto our fingers. She has a hearty appetite and eats any cereal that she is given for breakfast, regaredless of the consistency or addition of shreaded fruits or vegatables. Her favorite part of the meal however, is that final shot glass of applesauce which she gulps down without taking a breath!

Ice Skating was reminicient of the Montclair Clarey Anderson or South Mountain Arenas, except that the songs were mostly in Russian and they didhn't sell hot chocolate at the concession stand. Nonetheless, it was really enjoyable and we worked up an appetitie for a pizza dinner and a Bajithka beer! So untill tomorrow B&C

Saturday, March 17, 2007

Day Thirteen and Fourteen


Dancing is truly a universal language! Simply to be on a dance floor with a live band, moving to the rhythms of Russian and Kazak ballads, surrounded by local townspeople will be etched in our memories for years to come! Olyssa gave up her Friday night and, with her three American families, piled into two small cars and drove 30 miles out of Kostanai to a place called "444" but affectionately referred to by us as "the shishkabob-belly dancer place." What a time we all had! We arrived at 8:00 PM and closed the place after midnight. And the food just kept on coming! Between courses of fresh vegatables, skewered meat with delectible barbecue sauces, bread baskets, rice dishes, pickled tomatos, peppers and pickles, wine, water, beer and vodka, we danced and were entertained by amazing belly dancers and performers! It exceeded our wildest expectations and we salute Olyssa who is ensuring that our time spent here inn Kazakhstan is not only poignant but enjoyable, educational, culturally informative and comfortable. Julia comes from a very rich heritage!

We arrived at the Baby House before Julie awoke and we surprised her by greeting her at her crib to which she responded with a characteristically brilliant smile! What a cutie! She is still a little congested but doesn't seem bothered by it. "Dad" took more pictures. "Mom" fed her breakfast and the three os us played for over an hour. Time with Julia always passes too quickly (for us anyway!).

Then, as the day was sunny and warming, we hiked to the distant outdoor market and browsed the stalls, buying Bruce a baseball cap with ear muffs for eight bucks! We walked back to the hotel through "Central Park", still buryed in snow and ice, ate chicken breast sandwiches with cold potatos in our room and took an afternoon nap, preparing to write this blog to you. Tomorrow afternoon we're scheduled for luncing out, followed by a rigorous two hours of indoor ice skating! Austin we miss you! More to follow, so stay tuned and keep your comments and emails coming! We love them! Our love to you there, from us, here... C & B